I am a skirt girl. I haven’t always been a skirt girl. Once upon a time I used to wear jeans, the real tight ones, the ones you’d have to lie down on the floor to zip up. It’s a good job I was a little thinner in those days. And didn’t mind the pain. My mother would have said, “No sense, no feeling.” She might have been right.  But that was “in my salad days when I was green in judgement” …
I once went to a Catholic families picnic in a pair of jeans. I thought, “Picnic – jeans.” It seemed to make sense until the moment I arrived and discovered I was the only woman not wearing a skirt. Have you ever been in that sort of situation? It’s very uncomfortable. No wonder I never attended another picnic in jeans. Next time I thought, “Picnic – skirt.”
I wasn’t too happy about giving up my jeans. I rather liked my faded old comfortable friends. They were easy to wear, especially since I’d given up buying the really tight ones. A pair of jeans and a T shirt or a jumper: How easy. I didn’t have to think. Stress-free dressing.
I guess I could have been brave and continued being the only woman dressed in jeans. But I wanted to be liked and accepted. I would probably have been liked and accepted anyway but I didn’t take the risk. I didn’t really want to stand out from the crowd. So jeans became my at-home-wear only. And I just hoped I didn’t get an unexpected visitor. Fancy getting caught wearing a pair of jeans.
Somewhere along the line, I stopped slipping into my comfy jeans even when all alone. Did I grow too fat for them? No, it wasn’t that. I think I just began to like my skirts. I liked feeling feminine.  I found a post on The Catholic Young Woman blog; Why I Love Skirts, which says it so well. The post was written by Clare. Here is an extract:
“…They swish around your ankles. They drape over a chair when you sit down. They billow and blow in the wind…
…They make me feel like a lady. They make me feel like a princess. They make me feel like a woman…
…In short: skirts are so much fun!”
I know just what Clare means. Skirts don’t have to be frumpish. They come in dozens of different fabrics, hundreds of styles and colours, various lengths, thousands of patterns… They can be casual and comfortable, soft and floaty, dressed up and sophisticated...
I might be a middle aged Catholic woman rather than a young Catholic woman but I still want to be a princess for my prince. I still want to feel like a woman. I still want to have fun.
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  1. I love this article! You go girl! Sadly, in the summer months here in the deep south, I'm kind of an athletic shorts kind of girl. Not so feminine, but comfy and practical.

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  2. Men here in the UK usually wear trousers and jeans ... unless they're in Scotland and they might wear kilts.

    I always thought it must be terrible for men's legs ... being always kept in the dark either in trousers or pyjamas. They're there in total darkness all day and night long and they're expected to walk around without seeing where they're going.

    That's why men in kilts jump around when they're dancing. Their legs aren't accustomed to all the daylight and they blink and stumble not knowing where to go. Scottish men pretend it's dancing to hide the embarrassment their legs cause them.

    God bless.

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  3. Hi Sue,

    How sweet that you quoted my daughter and her blog! I am a jeans and jumper type myself, but I was blessed by a daughter who seemed to become more herself when she wore pretty things, and except for a short time at about age 10 when she wanted to be either a cowboy or a Jedi, she's always looked for beautiful, feminine, skirts wearing role models. I really admire that about her, especially since we live in an area where women generally don't wear skirts, so she's developed her love for pretty clothes all on her own. Though now she's going to a college where there's a dress code, so all the girls wear skirts or dresses and the boys wear collared shirts.

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  4. Hi Dana! Thank you for your comment. I used to be a shorts girl too. My mother would say, "You're not going out in public in those, are you?" In those days, I couldn't see anything wrong with my short shorts. Nowadays my shorts have lengthened to my knees: I wouldn't want to frighten anyone with my pale freckly legs! I bet you have some good shorts weather in the deep south.

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  5. Hi Victor, thank you for those very amusing kilt thoughts. Wasn't it those exposed hairy legs that used to frighten off all the Scottish enemies? Anyone who could stand having bare legs in the Scottish cold must have been really tough.

    Both my sons are ex-bagpipe players. We still have a couple of kilts somewhere. I don't think they ever got used to wearing them. They always wore their shorts underneath!

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  6. Hi Willa. Without Clare's post, I wouldn't have had a story to tell. I just hoped she wouldn't mind me using some of her words. I really loved her post. She expressed everything so well and I thought, "Yes, that's how I feel too!" And my girls agree too!

    I love how skirts can express a personality so well: so many styles.
    I was interested to hear about the dress code at Clare's college. Here, at all the colleges and universities practically everyone wears jeans. I've never heard of one having a dress code. But what a great idea!

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  7. Hi Sue, I'm not much of a skirt girl myself but I do think they can be very pretty. Maybe I should try and rethink my wardrobe!!

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  8. Hi Sue,

    It's a Catholic liberal arts college. The young people are also supposed to address each other as Miss and Mr. during class time. Sometimes they do it even out of class, which is sort of cute to hear in California where almost everyone generally uses first names! It is a seminar format where they discuss the Great Books so probably the dress code and formal address keep it from becoming a rap session (I hope that isn't an Americanism -- you know, where everyone just kind of expresses their personal opinions instead of trying to uncover the truth).

    Probably more than you wanted to hear! I told Clare about your post and she was honored.

    I've tried to get in the habit of skirt-wearing and managed it for a couple of years but here it is very counter-cultural. Kind of the opposite of the way you describe your environment. If I really enjoyed skirts or believed it was a matter of absolute obligation I could do it, but such is not the case.

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  9. Noreen, I'm so glad my blog is not one of the ones you can't comment on! I always love hearing from you. Isn't it interesting finding out little details about each other, such as what we like to wear? I was fascinated by the recent royal wedding: all the women wore dresses and all but one, wore a hat or something hat-like. I wonder what the comments would have been if one brave woman had turned up in pants!

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  10. Willa, your comment was so interesting! Thank you for taking the time to share. I love the sound of Clare's liberal arts college. I've never heard of students addressing each other in so formal a manner. A lesson in manners, respect and consideration, I guess, which is great. And as you said, it prevents an informal expression of opinions.It's amazing how language and dress affect the way we act.

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  11. Hello Auntie Sue :)
    I agree that skirts are lovely - I love light skirts and dresses during the summer :) I have to say I do love my jeans though! I'm afraid my wardrobe houses several pairs of tight jeans lol! Lovely as skirts are, they just aren't always practical for me. When I'm teaching the younger grades, I always wear pants because of the vast amount of time spent on the floor with them, or standing over them while they sit on the floor (perfect opportunity to see straight up a skirt lol!). The other consideration for skirts is the expense. In order to keep myself warm in skirts during winter, or keep myself modestly covered in the classroom, I would have to spend a lot of money on the appropriately cut and designed skirts as well as the tights, leggings, boots and shoes to go with them! I recently tried making my own skirts, but the overall expense wasn't cheap enough to justify skirts rather than pants.
    I understand what Willa says about wearing only skirts being counter-cultural. Having been brought up in and around the city, pants have always seemed simply normal to me. As a Christian in the secular world, sometimes not being counter-cultural in such an obvious way is an asset in witnessing.
    Lots of love, Meg xx

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  12. Hi Meg, evidence you are reading my blog! I have finally found a topic that encouraged you to leave a comment!

    I understand totally about the practicality of pants. The girls have the same problem with modesty when they go to St John Ambulance meetings. It is awfully difficult to lie on the floor (pretending to be a patient), or to lean over a 'patient' to administer first aid, without exposing one's underwear. Same problem with sport. So appropriate clothes need to be chosen for the occasion.

    I am fortunate, Meg. I have built up a large collection of tights and boots and long socks etc and I am nice and toasty warm however cold it gets.

    I also appreciate your comment about being counter cultural. You can mix with other young people and not look different, and your peers accept you and they won't think being a Christian is weird. Me? It's too late: everyone who knows me thinks I'm a bit weird. I'm afraid there's no hope for me!
    God bless, my favourite niece xxx

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  13. Can I just say how much I love this blog entry?!?!?! I am "in the process" of "making the switch" to skirts. Part of the reason it's taking so long for my "transition" is that I am a "big girl" and it's hard to find affordable ones in my size, (which saddens me). However. Nonplussed I have vowed to learn to sew. (which, I've gotten exactly NO WHERE, but I'm not giving up!) They really do make you feel pretty, feminine, and more like a lady/mom. :) Also not sticking out among the other homeschooling moms is a big perk. LOL!!

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  14. Susan,

    Skirts are fun! Now that I wear them out of choice, I really enjoy them. And sewing them is easy! Lots of straight stitching. Oh I wish I lived near you. I would pop over and help you. We would have a fantastic time together!

    If you haven't yet bought a sewing machine, ask around for recommendations. A reliable machine makes all the difference. When the thread keeps breaking or gets in a tangle regularly, sewing can be so frustrating.

    Let me know how you get on!

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  15. I am the proud owner of a Singer sewing machine. With no clue how to thread it or use it. :( I need to find a willing person to come show me and get me going! Then I'm going to burn it up making skirts for me and my girls. And aprons too since we are most interested in those too. :) Arrggghh!! I wish we were neighbors!! :)

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  16. Susan,

    We can still share tips and progress reports via email and you can post pictures on your blog. I look forward to seeing your first creation!

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  17. I also consider myself as a skirt girl. As a matter of fact, I bought two new skirts last week. They were created by Australian designers.

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    1. Sarah,

      New skirts? What a treat! I will have to check out your link.

      Thanks for stopping by.

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  18. I agree with you in theory, but practically...it's not practical for me. sigh. I have tried...some I like, but some I feel frumpy in...I might wear them anyway, especially depending on where I am, where I'm going, or more "fancy" wear. I hate pantyhose...but also hate shaving my legs...so..if I wear skirts (much like the dreaded shorts or swimsuits) I have to shave :p... And then, in the winter...my legs get cold. In the summer, my thighs stick together. In the spring and fall, the skirts blow up and expose. I don't know if I should wear a slip or shorts under, or tights, or what. Then, they often require different kind of shoes. And I have no money to spend on new clothes...I am no good at sewing at this point...so...I am whining all of this out to tell you, I agree in theory ..the feminity, etc. But...I'm not "there" yet. :)

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    1. Hi Amanda,

      I hate pantyhose too! But I don't mind winter weight thick tights, especially the lycra clingy type. And I love long socks and boots! In summer, I just have to resort to the shaver. I wouldn't want to cover my legs in summer anyway because it would be too hot.

      I've thought about wearing close fitting trousers or pants under skirts in winter. that would be comfortable and warm. I've seen some patterns for pretty wrap around skirts that are designed to be worn over jeans. But that requires sewing...

      Amanda, I completely understand all your obstacles and how you are not 'there' yet. As long as we are comfortable and suitably dressed for the occasion, it doesn't really matter.

      God bless!

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