What am I to do? My head aches. I’m tired. I feel like running away from everything that is overwhelming me: all the busyness of life. How did life get to be so busy? One day I can do everything. One more thing? No problem. I can cope. Yes, I’d love to do that. The next I am struggling. I am not keeping up and I am feeling guilty.

Feeling guilty? Yes, I have unanswered emails and letters waiting for my attention, posts for other people I should be writing, blogging...

Blogging requires a lot of time which I haven’t had recently. I keep writing stories for my own blog, but I am getting further and further behind in reading other people’s posts and stopping to comment. This is a real give and take community so I am thinking: How can I expect other bloggers to come and read my posts and leave comments when I can’t return the favour? How can I continue to take if I have no time to give?

So I have been wondering what to do…

I could stop writing posts and leave my blog inactive.
I could just delete my blog and write for myself.
I could turn off the comments so I can’t receive what I can’t give.
Or…?

Does anyone else ever feel overwhelmed by blogging? How do you manage your time? I’d love to hear any tips and suggestions before I make a decision about what to do.

Sometimes I think it would be nice to be a cat and sleep all day and not have to wonder what to do...

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  1. Sue
    You know you are a person who HAS to write, that's just how you are wired. I say write, don;t worry about reading and commenting elsewhere. This may be a season, it may be longer. blog without guilt. Oh and only blog when you will simply burst otherwise, write to please yourself but share with us:)

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  2. Erin,

    You are such a kind person! You are quite right: I need to write. Sometimes I tell myself I just won't write any more blog posts, and then I get an idea that just has to be written down, and I find myself back at square one with no real idea how to solve my dilemma.

    "Blog without guilt...please yourself but share with us:)" Those are such generous words.

    Yes, it may be a season. I just love reading everyone else's blogs and keeping up with friendships. Maybe once I am back on top of things I'll be able to do that better.

    Thank you so much for your comment, Erin.

    God bless!

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  3. In my opinion ... wait ... let me get on my high horse first ...

    In my opinion it would be wrong to stop writing and leave the Blog inactive, to delete it, or switch off comments.

    There's a need on the Internet for what is good, to counter-balance all that's bad out there. And a Christian, family-based, home-schooling, fun, entertaining, interesting ... did I mention fun ... Blog, is what's needed. And yours is all these things.

    Switching off comments tends to send the message "I write. You listen." I'm sure that's not how you wish to portray yourself.

    I've just checked my list of "favorite" Blogs (I don't follow per se but I put favorites on a shortcut list). There's currently over 30 such Blogs. I don't visit ALL on a daily basis.

    But I make a point of visiting AND commenting on those Blogs whose owners comment on mine. That shortens the list somewhat. I then visit AND comment at random two or three of the others per day. If they return the favor, they get visited again. If they don't ... eventually I stop visiting them.

    I supposedly have over a 100 "followers" (I bet they don't know where I'm going!). Do they all visit me daily? No ... most have fallen asleep with my very long-winded posts.

    Someone important once said "I Blog for fun and don't follow the rules". Who was it? Oh ... it was you! Great advice.

    Take things easy and have a rest. Praying you get your strength back soon.

    By the way, that cat has not moved all the time I wrote this.

    My high horse has bolted though and I fell to the ground with a bump!

    God bless.

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    1. Victor,

      Thank you for your thoughts. They are very helpful.

      You said, 'Switching off comments tends to send the message "I write. You listen."' I hadn't thought of it that way. If the comments are turned off, I assumed that no one would feel obliged to stop and say anything.

      Thank you for sharing your method of managing the blogs you take an interest in. It is good to see how other people cope with the sometimes huge job of keeping up with everything that is going on in the blogosphere.

      I wonder if there are any blogs you still take the time to read even if the blog authors never comment on your posts. Are some blogs worth visiting regardless of whether or not the authors visit your blog?

      I know I said I was blogging by my own rules, Victor but not if that results in me hurting other people's feelings. Blogging isn't worth it if friendships are affected.

      Thank you for your prayers and encouraging words. I really do appreciate them.

      The cat? Cats can stay asleep and still for hours. Wouldn't you like to trade places with a cat sometimes? I don't think I'd like to rely on humans to give me my meals though. Our cats are ready for their breakfast long before anyone in our house gets up. They get very frustrated having to wait!

      God bless!

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    2. I hope and pray you're feeling better Sue. Remember, your health comes first .... Bloggers are way down the list of priorities.

      Yes ... I do look for new Bloggers as I trim my list of those I don't visit so often. I click on lists of other peoples' favorite Blogs, or I click on their followers and visit them. I tend to avoid those know-it-all Blogs who tell us all about Vatican II and the Congress of Nice in the year whatever, and why St Augustine wore a certain particular trousers when he said what he said before breakfast.

      I go more for the friendly type of Blogs ... like yours. And leave a friendly comment encouraging them.

      I doubt you could hurt other peoples' feelings if you tried. Just be yourself and remember what Shakespeare said ... To Blog or not to blog, that is the question ... (You know the rest).

      God bless.

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    3. Victor,

      I like looking at other bloggers' favourite blogs too. I often see the same names cropping up on different blogs: circles of friendship.

      "To Blog or not to blog, that is the question ..." I know who wrote that and it wasn't Shakespeare!

      God bless you!

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  4. Sue,
    Could you write short posts when you're tired? Maybe, just one photo of what you've been up to or a few words. That's if you want to stay in touch. But, if you want a break, maybe you could write a short post saying when you expect to be back? Just thoughts. I needed a break and a change of direction, at Christmas. I think it's important to enjoy it, don't you think? But, if short posts help to stay in touch, maybe that would help.

    Rambled thoughts. I'm sorry you're so tired - but, then, you haven't been well. Take a break - your friends will wait.

    Love you!!! :-D

    PS. It's the reply option which means I can't comment properly on the iPad. Victor's blog has it, too. Don't worry, though - it just means that I don't always fix mistakes, etc, when I comment here - it takes too long. (excusing my jumbled comment to myself:-D)

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    1. Vicky,

      Thank you for all your helpful suggestions. Sometimes I have short post ideas but usually my ideas need a lot of words! I think that when something wants to be written, it doesn't really matter how much time it takes to write because it is an enjoyable process trying to express that idea. But... when I write for a long time I have even less time to browse blogs.

      I don't know about a change of direction. I love blogging but I do need to catch up on my emails and letters and think about some promised grief posts. It's just a bit of a juggling act. Maybe I should prioritise everything and be more disciplined when a blog post idea hits me, and not drop everything and go off and write the story.

      I didn't realise you have problems replying on this option using an iPad. I guess that's why you haven't got this option on your own blog. I haven't had any problems commenting with the Xoom so I never considered you would.

      Your comment isn't jumbled. And I love you too!

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  5. Sue,

    Great post...I totally agree with Erin. If I commented on every blog, I wouldn't have time for everything else. I love reading so many blogs, yours included...Just keep writing..You are inspiring..
    One thing I have learnt, get my chores done first and limit my computer time and my blog, FB time..Have a wonderful weekend Leanne

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    1. Leanne,

      It is so lovely to hear from you. Thank you for stopping and sharing your thoughts. I have been thinking a lot about your last blog post where you mentioned getting your chores done first. I actually followed your example this week. It helped! I am so glad you wrote about that.

      Thank you for reading my blog, Leanne. And I hope you're having a great weekend too. Enjoy the holidays!

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  6. Yes blog-land is a give and take-community. But some periods you give like 10% and receive 90% other periods it's the other way around.
    You give us all enjoyment by writing your blog, let those comment whose gift it is to comment. Go on writing, comment when you have the energy, let us go on commenting, and don't feel bad abut it. I would read your blog regularly even if you never ever commented on my blog again :)

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    1. Uglemor,

      You are so very generous. Thank you for taking the time to share these encouraging and kind words.

      You said, "let those comment whose gift it is to comment". I actually think the highlight of my blog is the comments. Everyone who stops by adds to the conversation which ends up being much more interesting than my original post. If I turn off the comments none of the already written comments will be visible which I think would be a great loss. So many people have taken the time to comment, it doesn't seem right to take away their words.

      I have been thinking about your wonderful laundry post that I commented on some time ago. Have you seen the Real Mom Resources? It's a site where bloggers can link up relevant articles to particular topics of interest. One topic was ideas that help mothers cope with the laundry. Maybe you could link up your article. The button is in my side bar if you are interested.

      I will comment on your blog again! I do enjoy my visits to your blog even if I haven't stopped and said hello in a while.

      God bless and thank you.

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    2. Sue Elvis, sadly that great idea was not mine. Now I found what I hope is the original mind ehind at http://northcanton.patch.com/blog_posts/dots-laundry-life-and-loving-your-kids

      Keep on living, loving and writing.
      God's peace to you.

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    3. Uglemor,

      All ideas end up being shared. We pick them up and pass them on to others. It doesn't matter it wasn't your original idea. I still enjoyed reading your post and thinking what a great idea the dot system is! Thank you for the link though. I will visit the blog.

      May God bless you!

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  7. Hiatus? Or turn off comments. I've seen several sites that do both, and the readership stays. Please try not to worry too much, and do whatever you need to in order to look after yourself!

    -A.

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    1. Angela,

      I appreciate you stopping and sharing your suggestions. Maybe I do worry too much about things! When things pile up and time is short, life looks harder to deal with. You said, "you need to in order to look after yourself!" I think that is something most mothers forget to do. We always feel we have to be worrying about and looking after others but I guess there are times when we need to recharge and rest and focus on our own needs.

      Thank you, Angela. God bless!

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  8. Hey Sue - hope you feel better! Don' stress about blogging and visiting blogs. You love to write - do it when you feel inspired - and we love reading your thoughts!

    Personally, I think the email forums were best for the back and forth conversations that we enjoy, but fb and blogging have dipped into that time. I'm a very sporadic blogger and I do it mainly if I'm working somthing through or to chronical something I don't want to forget - too bad I didn't have that venue when all my dc were little!

    Ah but there are only so many hours in the day and as mommas, our families have priority! Again, no stress and get well :-)

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    1. Beate,

      I can understand your enjoyment of forums. Yes, there are so many great back and forth conversations. It's a great way to get to know people and meet on an equal footing.

      I guess blogs are not so equal. I write and readers comment. Comments are appreciated so much though because of this inequality. I am the one putting forth the topic and readers are very kindly joining in with the conversation. That's a lot of giving by readers, isn't it?

      I do love to write, Beate which is probably why I am a sporadic forum participant but a passionate blogger!

      Yes, our families do have priority and that is one thing I feel happy about. I enjoy my family so much it just has to come first. And if I never did anything with my family, what would I have to write about?!

      Get well? Thank you! My problems are only minor, I am sure I will bounce back very soon.

      God bless you!

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  9. I have struggled a lot with what blogging means to me and what, if anything, my blog means to others. Sometimes it does feel like an obligation and not a privilege. Sometimes I feel bad because I do not have tons of followers and then sometimes I feel guilty or worried that the few followers I do have are not getting much from me at times.

    When blogging causes me more stress than pleasure I try to tell myself it is NOT really an obligation. I can take a few weeks off, or a few months even, if that is what I need. If the readers are not there when I come back then I will just write for the fun of it and trust God will lead others to my words. I have never ended up taking months off or even weeks. I always miss it too much but it is good to know I can.

    If your blog is not fun to write right now, take the time you need. But I suspect, as soon as the pressure is off you'll have tons you want to share with us all. Erin is right, you are a writer! And, there are many who enjoy reading your blog. We'll wait till you are ready, and will pray you find peace in the meantime!

    Blessings, Kari

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    1. Kari,

      I find writing for my blog fun most of the time. It's keeping up with everything going on in the blogosphere that causes me stress. Blogging and commenting seem to go hand-in-hand and one can't exist without the other. I guess feeling guilty over not commenting on other people's blogs takes away the fun of my own blog.

      I can understand you missing your blog when you have decided to take a break! I have similar conversations with myself sometimes. Yes, blogging is not an obligation. I even tell myself that probably no one will even notice I have disappeared. But I always return very quickly because I get an idea I just have to write about. At times like this, I don't even think about whether anyone is reading or not!

      I have to smile. You said, "as soon as the pressure is off you'll have tons you want to share with us all." As we were driving to town this afternoon, I had this idea for a post and then I thought, "But aren't I wondering if I should continue to blog or not?" Maybe everyone's encouraging words has helped remove that pressure.

      Thank you for helping me out, Kari.

      God bless.

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  10. Hi Sue,
    Can you take little breaks from blogging when you feel tired and overwhelmed? I do this 3 or 4 times (well, sometimes more) a year and I come back refreshed. I find blogging time consuming, especially when my daughter is home from school. On my most recent post I didn't even get a chance to reply to comments. (I know, how rude, right?) The thing is - we are human, have families, homes to keep up, etc...
    Often there's just not enough time in a day. As for commenting on other blogs that you like to keep in touch with, you could simply comment once in a while rather than regularly. That would free up some time, maybe?

    Vicky mentioned short posts when you are tired - I do this, also. I'd never be able to blog otherwise.

    I hope you feel better soon, Sue.

    Just some thoughts :)

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    1. Mary,

      Thank you for your thoughts. I guess we are all in a similar position. We all have families and other commitments that have to be seen to before we can blog. Everyone must feel overwhelmed and stressed out at times. But at least everyone understands the situation and I guess, if we all make allowances for each other, there isn't a problem! Comment once in a while? Often I have lots to say when I read other people's blogs! but yes, sometimes time is short. I hope that readers of my blog don't feel obliged to comment. As you said, it's good to keep in touch and I do like hearing from friends, but I also understand when people can't stop and add to the conversation.

      "I didn't even get a chance to reply to comments." Mary, I didn't even notice! I did notice your great sense of humour on recent posts though.

      God bless you!

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  11. HI Sue - I confess to feeling VERY overwhelmed at times with blogging, and I question it on a regualar basis.

    In particular, I often feel very overwhelmed, and even depressed, when I read other people's blogs on how wonderful and 'perfect' other families seem to be - there have been times when reading other people's blogs have left me in tears, feeling I am a total failure at homeschooling, parenting, and in my faith.

    But, there are other times, when I stumble across someone's blog, as I did yours recently, when I read a post which leaves me uplifted and encouraged. And, there has been the occasion where I've met someone in person, or who has sent me an email, who has said the same thing about something on my own blog.

    Blogging can cause an undue amount of stress - but it is a stress we tend to put on ourselves. If you don't have the time to write, or the time to comment - then, don't! But if something calls out to you and you feel you should write or comment, do. There have been times when weeks have gone by where I've not written a post or commented on other blogs. Then, the urge hits, and I whack out several posts and 'go visiting' other blogs, and leave comments.

    Life - sometimes we can, sometimes, we can't. My suggestion would be to do what you can, and not worry about what you can't. :)

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    1. Linda,

      Maybe most of us find the blogosphere difficult to deal with at times. It is good of everyone to share so I don't feel so alone with this problem. Thank you!

      I am so sorry to hear that reading other people's blogs has sometimes left you in tears. I am guessing that those 'perfect' families aren't really that perfect at all. It's all about what people choose to reveal. Because I have older children, I have to be careful what I write about as I don't want to embarrass them. You probably have this concern too. So maybe our stories are a bit unbalanced: more of the good ones than the bad. I would hate to think I'd made anyone feel inadequate. It's a tricky situation!

      Yes, it's strange how the urge to share or write or visit other blogs can suddenly hit. One day I am absolutely sure I will never write another word or even visit the blogosphere. The next day I feel totally different. I read something that captures my interest and I wonder how I could have considered disappearing.

      Your suggestions are so sensible: do what I can and don't worry about what I can't. I am going to remember that!

      God bless!

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  12. As you know, I wrote a bit about this a few weeks ago on my post Leave a Comment. Take it from me, the only way to go about this is to just let things sit. NEVER delete your blog. You will regret it. I have done it twice. I didn't learn the first time and I can never get those posts back, like the post I wrote after I lost my baby. That one I miss the most. Or those posts I started eons ago, my very first posts... all lost.
    If you need a break, take one, but never ever delete. If you change your mind and come back, your blog and your readers will be waiting for you. I will miss you terribly, especially since I just found you!!

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    1. Amy Caroline,

      I deleted my blog once before but a couple of days later, I brought it back to life. I wonder what I would have done if the deletion was irreversible. I am so sorry to hear you lost your blog posts. Yes, we do change our minds about things so I won't delete my blog! Your advice is so sensible.

      "...those posts I started eons ago, my very first posts... all lost." How long have you been blogging? This is only the second year I've had my blog.

      I am very sorry to hear you lost a baby. We have so little to remember our babies by so I can understand how valuable that post must have been to you.

      Amy Caroline, thank you for your kind words about how you'd miss me. I am glad I found you too. I'm especially enjoying reading your posts about homeschooling high school.

      God bless you! And thank you for stopping to comment.

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