• Tell your children you love them. Tell them every day, every hour, every time you see them.
  • Hug your children. Hug them every day. Hug them every hour. Hug them as often as possible. Hug your babies. Hug your toddlers. Hug your older children. Hug your young adults. No one ever gets too old for hugs.
  • Let your children sit on your lap for great big hugs, even your older children.
  • Never refuse an invitation to hug. Never say, “I’ll give you a hug later.” Put down whatever you are doing and hug straight-away. What is more important than showing a child you love them?
  • Have big family hugs.
  • Tell your children you love them again.
  • Tell your children they are beautiful.
  • Love everything about your children. Love their rainbow coloured hair. Love their choice of clothes. Love their ideas. Love who they are. They don't have to be like you.
  • Tell your children you love them yet again.
  • Never use love as a carrot, as an incentive to strive onwards and upwards. The carrot will keep moving forward, just out of reach, and a child will eventually give up believing she is worthy of love. She will conclude she will never be good enough. Love shouldn't have to be earned.
  • Ask your children who made them so beautiful, and teach them the answer: "God!"
  • Show your children you love them by giving them your time, listening to them, accepting them just the way they are, and trusting them.
  • Ask your children who loves them, and teach them the answer: "You and God!"
  • Think about how much God loves us.There is no such thing as too much love. Love won't spoil a child. 
  • Love everyone. There is enough love to go around. The more we love, the more it grows.
  • Think about how you want to be loved, and love in the same way.
  • Love unconditionally.
Tell your children you love them. Make sure they know they are loved unconditionally. Then one day they will realise just how much God loves them. And they will strive onward and upward, wanting to be the people God intended them to be, not because they are following the elusive carrot of love, but because they know they are loved and want to love too. 

 Love is good. Love is the best gift we can give to our children.

Don't you feel the need for some love? I do. I'm now off to find someone to hug. Why don’t you do the same?

But before you go, why don't you stop and share your own rules for loving children? I am sure my own list isn't complete.


Thank you Mary of The Beautiful Gate for your recent posts which have made me reflect upon children and love. 

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  1. Sue, I honestly don't think I can improve or add to what you said. Beautiful! I hug, kiss on the head, and bless my children on the forehead every night...even (and especially!) the big children. : )

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    1. Stephanie,

      Thank you! I love your bedtime routine... Don't forget to bless your children every night. Always send them off to sleep feeling loved.

      Especially big children? I agree! The older they get, the more important it is not to forget to hug them and tell them we love them.

      God bless!

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  2. This is a post that will get very few comments. I also think you have it covered, and after a few posts of "I agree!" and "Me too" nobody will post any more :)
    God, time and love, do we need more?

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    1. Uglemor,

      I'd rather have few comments because everyone agrees, than lots of comments because people are stopping to say I've got it all wrong! How can we go wrong if we realise God, time and love are all we need? You are quite right.

      God bless!

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  3. Sue, I have only one question: Will you adopt me? :) I'll pack my bag and be right over!

    What a beautiful creed for being a parent you have written! I can't think of anything you have forgotten either.

    Isn't it wonderful that LOVE can't be depleted? How full of Love, Heaven will be! Love reminds me of flowers, if you don't pick them..give them away, then they stop blooming.

    You are an awesome mom, and those gorgeous smiling faces on your sidebar are a testament to that. This post was so lovely that I could almost feel a hug way over here! xoxo

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    1. Patricia,

      Yes, love can't be depleted, and there's an endless supply of hugs so I'm sending lots of each right back over the sea to you!

      "Love reminds me of flowers, if you don't pick them..give them away, then they stop blooming." That is so beautiful! That's a very good reason for letting children pick flowers. I wonder if I can steal your sentence to use in my children's novel. Would you mind? Gemma-Rose loves to pick flowers for me. I have a vase next to my bed and she always makes sure there's flowers in it. Sometimes there's not much blooming in the garden so she brings me dandelions. There's an endless supply of those!

      An awesome mum? I am not sure about that, Patricia. I have been a slow learner. I have had to fight with myself to love my children unconditionally. I haven't always been so accepting of who my children are. My poor first daughter had to battle with me constantly. She is the proud owner of the rainbow hair, and I am happy to say I can now accept that!!

      When I wrote this list, I didn't mean to imply I am always good at living by the rules. I do know how important they are though and I strive to do my best. My children do their best too to bind me to the rules: They ask for so many hugs a day. I just have to remember to drop everything and respond.

      It's good to chat. I really hope you are feeling better. I've been praying for you!

      God bless!

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  4. Sue, I didn't know you were writing a children's novel. That's wonderful! Of course you may use my sentence....I would be honored. I could tell everyone that I'm published in a novel! :)

    That is beyond sweetness that Gemma Rose keeps you supplied with flowers. All that love you lavish on your children is coming right back to you. How beautiful that is! It's what God wants from us...only so often we don't behave as lovingly as Gemma Rose is doing. Something I need to think about...

    I laughed about your rainbow haired daughter! One of the sad things about having only one child is that you can't learn from your mistakes..and be more relaxed and accepting of little challenges from the next child. I always felt that I would have been much more laid back with a second child..if there had been one.

    Well, sorry for this short :) comment, but now that I'm feeling better, I have moved upstairs where I hope to do some much needed de-cluttering in the dresser and closet. Meanwhile, may all the paint fumes remain downstairs! The painting project is coming to a close, and will hopefully be over before the end of the week. And..the weather here is gorgeous, which definitely helps. Blessing to you this week! Hugs across the sea....xoxo

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    1. Patricia,

      I finished my first children's novel a long time ago. It has been professionally edited and is all ready for publication. I have been waiting for some drawings to go with the story. My eldest daughter has done some for me. She recently offered to do a few more. It's taking a long time but one day I will see my book in print!

      I am working on the sequel to the first book. I've done the first draft and now I am about a third of the way through the second draft. There is an appropriate place in the first story to insert your words so I am glad you don't mind me using them!

      I have been very fortunate. Each child gave me an opportunity to improve my mothering skills. Did you ever read my Memories of an Inexperienced Mother post? I was a terrible mother first time round! I feel so sorry for my first child. I really am a slow learner, but I think with God's grace and lots of time, I have improved just a bit. I am much more relaxed with Gemma-Rose.

      I am glad to hear you are feeling better. That is so good! Once you are completely well and your house has been sorted out, I hope you will feel very happy.

      May God bless you too! xx

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  5. I am very big on hugs! I think my children sometimes get sick of me hugging all the time, and wish I'd find others to hug, too - and guess what? I do! I often give my friends hugs, too - but sadly, it seems to be a thing that not many people do - I often find I'm the one always putting myself forward for the hugs - but I don't care! Hugs are important, and a great way to say, 'I love you - you are special to me'. And my family, and my friends, will always be getting hugs from me! God bless you! :)

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    1. Linda,

      If we ever meet I hope you won't hesitate to hug me. I love hugs too!

      "Hugs are important, and a great way to say, 'I love you - you are special to me'" That is so true! I bet if you stopped hugging, everyone would start to complain. I think we all need some human contact, and far too many people stand back too afraid to show their feelings. That's one of the nice things about bloggers. We are always sending each other hugs and love across the blogosphere. I like that!


      Thank you for stopping and saying hello. I am sending a big hug and lots of love back to you! Hope you don't mind. God bless!

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  6. Oh, I should also mention, on the subject of hugs, the importance of hugs if you have 'special needs' children. One of my daughters is partially autistic, and while she's still not big on hugs, they have helped her incredibly. While once she would tense up and pull away, now we hug nearly every day! Such a simple act, and yet, it has made such a difference in her life. Off to hug her now, actually...... :)

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    1. Linda,

      I guess we should persevere in showing physical love. It sounds like your daughter got used to you hugging her, and the hugs now mean so much to you both. I hope you enjoyed that hug!

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  7. Found this on Cath Bloggers network. Great post. Since you asked, I'm going to add that the book Five Love Languages for Children is a great source of ideas and also, I tell mine when they make mistakes "It doesn't make me love you less."

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    1. Anabelle,

      You are so right about the mistakes. I make mistakes all the time, and I'm so grateful no one withdraws their love when I do something stupid! That's what kids need too.

      Five Love Languages for Children... that title sounds familiar. As soon as I've finished here I must hop over to Amazon and see if I can find out more! I just love following up other people's book leads.

      Thank you so much for visiting my blog. I knew I'd seen your name somewhere, and then realised it was on Mary's Beautiful Gate blog. We are friends already!

      God bless you.

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