Oh my! It's been a week since my last post. After posting daily all through April, my posts seem to have dwindled away almost to nothing. I thought about writing something a couple of days ago. I had this idea for a story about marriage, daughters, matchmaking and dowries but somehow I haven't yet found time to write it.

Time? What have I been busy doing recently? Actually I have been writing, just not here. I've been over at my unschooling blog writing stories about homeschooling, parenting and radical unschooling, a few unconventional musings. If any of that sounds interesting to you, please feel welcome to come and visit me at my blog Stories of an Unschooling Family. I'd love to see you.

"Imogen, if you were living in Jane Austen's day, you'd almost be an old maid."

"You'd be getting worried about finding a husband."

"But I'm only 18. Anne Eliot was 27 when she got married. And I'm not as old as Elizabeth Bennet when she married Darcy. She was 20."

"We could offer a dowry for you. Someone might be tempted to take you... "

Maybe I'll get around to writing that story soon, before it disappears completely from my mind. Then again it might be better to forget all about it!

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  1. Hee hee. I have thought of this. Amy will be 20 in August. She'd be nearly an old maid in those times. :) But instead, I know in my heart she is WAY TOO YOUNG. She is so young, in many ways very innocent, and has relied on us so much I'm afraid she be lost in many situations. For example, she still does not drive! When I suggested a dowry for her to get more prospects, she snorted and said, "no comment". LOL!!

    I love the picture. Did Felicity draw this?

    1. Susan,

      I agree there's no hurry. So glad we don't live in former times. Can you imagine Andy and I having to marry off 5 daughters?! No wonder everyone hoped for sons. Imogen doesn't drive either yet. There seems to be a lot of pressure to do these things as soon as possible. She's only 18 and already she's getting soooo behind! It's ridiculous really.

      Sophie drew the picture. I 'commissioned' it especially for my unschooling blog!

  2. Laughing out LOUD. "We could offer a dowry for you. Someone might be tempted to take you... "

    I might giggle at this all day!

    And I'm glad I hopped over to your homeschool blog. Why didn't I become a regular reader of that ages ago?!! My granddaughter is homeschooled (but only occasionally with help from me)... but even if I'd never known another homeschooler on the planet, I'd love reading that blog. LOVE the family portrait.

    1. Nancy,

      I don't think you;ll have any difficulty believing it was an older brother who made the remark about the dowry!

      I guess a lot of my readers here don't know about my unschooling blog. I lead a double life. Sometimes I disappear from here and put on my homeschooling hat over there. I used to post all my homeschooling stories here but not everyone who reads this blog is interested in homeschooling posts. So glad to hear you are!

      I rather think Sue in the family portrait looks a whole lot better than she does in a real photo!

  3. It would have been great to be an ugly, little rich grl, wouldn't it? But not so good to be a pretty, little poor girl. I'm glad I wasn't born in those days - the system seems a bit mean. And what about parents who have lots of daughters? You might end up living in a barn!

    God bless, Sue:-)

    1. Vicky,

      I'm so glad we aren't living in those days either. You might not have been able to get married until I did. Actually that wouldn't have been a problem as I got married first anyway! But you wouldn't have been able to call yourself Miss Skeleton until I was married. That name would have been mine. Immy is quite thrilled with the idea, that ever since Felicity got married, she has been entitled to the name Miss Elvis instead of Miss Imogen.

      Yes, lots of daughters... Do you remember what a problem that presented for the Bennets?

      God bless!

  4. I'm with Vicky- the system does seem a bit mean! It would have been sort of insulting to know that marrying you came with a big sum of money- as if you were being bought and sold. It is also really nice to know my daughters will be chosen for their beauty and their charm and not for the size of their father's bank account!

    Still, the story that inspired this conversation does sound VERY interesting- sure you don't want to share the whole thing?!?!?!?!?

    1. Kari,

      As there is nothing in our bank account, my daughters will also have to rely on their charm and own merits when they start thinking about marriage! Just as well things have changed.

      It was a very interesting conversation. I think I will write the whole story properly after all. Thank you for wanting to share more!

  5. Sue, I don't think any of your lovely daughters needs a dowry :) I love all those Jane Austen novels, and others in that genre, but I often wonder what happened to the poor girls who weren't pretty or charming etc. Seems like you had to just sit around waiting for someone to ask for your hand in marriage. Those must have been very interesting times! With your seven daughters, you would have had lots of comings and goings...and maybe even a ball or two...you think? Can you imagine having to make all their dresses...and they would need hats and gloves too. Imagine getting all dressed up for dinner every night! I'm exhausted just thinking about all of the protocols etc.

    I'm looking forward to your post on this topic. I have a feeling it will be very interesting :) Hugs dear Sue!

    1. Uh oh...I gave you two extra daughters! I must have counted wrong when you came to spend those three weeks with me :)

      BTW, LOVE the drawing above. So cute!

    2. Patricia,

      We al love Jane Austen too! The older girls have read all the novels and are collecting all the various DVD screen adaptations. They also like reading any non-fiction book associated with Jane Austen.

      Making dresses for all my daughters... Oh I don't know if I could have done that! Actually the girls have been invited to an evening of Jane Austen style dancing and dinner. I have to find them long evening gowns. Maybe their bridesmaids' dresses will do. Immy's and Charlotte's were Regency style. I don't want to have to sew them dresses!

      Yes, life must have been much more complicated than it is today. There wouldn't have been much time for anything other than a few feminine pursuits after all that dressing and entertaining and visiting and going to balls.

      I must write the full post soon!

      I wouldn't mind two extra daughters, Patricia, especially as we don't have to provide them with dowries! When I first read your comment I wondered if I'd misplaced a couple of daughters but then I saw your second comment!

      Hugs to you too. xx

  6. I too am more tan a bit tired of blogging for the moment. Real life, sunshine and rain is taking priority. But do write down all the stories, that come into your mind. Maybe not all are for posterity, but they will come back and haunt you when you have the time to write.

    1. Uglemor,

      It is lovely to hear from you! That's the problem with not posting: I don't get to swap comments with my blogging friends.

      All that sunshine and rain... I bet your garden is coming to life. When you feel like blogging again I would love to see some photos.

      I will jot down all my post ideas as you suggest for when I have time to write... Somehow I just haven't felt like writing anything recently. I hope my enthusiasm returns soon!

      God bless!

  7. Sometimes I can write everyday and sometimes it is a struggle to come up with something. Nothing wrong with having a blog-cation. I am thinking of taking one.

    1. Colleen,

      Thank you for the reassurance! The desire to write has deserted me but hopefully it will return. I shall just relax and enjoy my blog-cation. I like that word!

    2. Sue, a Jane Austen style dinner and dance?! What fun! I wonder what the menu will be. I know you girls will look beautiful. Do they have to learn those very interesting dance steps we see in the movie adaptations?

      I laughed about your sewing dresses. My poor husband sews on his own buttons, because he is so much better at it than I am. My mother couldn't sew, and neither can her daughters.

      The other night after I first read this post, I came across a lady on a TV program on EWTN who was discussing a book she had written based on Jane Austen. I thought, "What a coincidence! I must look it up for Sue and her girls." So, I found it on amazon, and have the link for you. It seems to be about how to find romance the Jane Austen way, so it might be for your older girls. But, since this was EWTN, I'm sure it is quite appropriate.

      Anyway, here's the link, in case you haven't found this one yet:


      Hope you post pictures of the girls going to their Jane Austen gala! That would be fun to see :)

      Enjoy your blog-cation! Awaiting your return.....xoxo

    3. Patricia,

      Thank you so much for the book recommendation! I am going to buy a copy and I know the girls will devour it!

      We've been talking about love, romance and Jane Austen. Charlotte hates all the modern film portrayals of love, (all that kissing - she rolls her eyes) and so hates romance movies. But Jane Austen movies are different. They did things properly in those days. As Imogen said, there was a certain etiquette to love and romance. You knew the rules. Anything goes today which is rather overwhelming. I am sure Charlotte especially would love to find out more about finding love the Jane Austen way!

      I haven't done anything more about finding suitable dresses for the Jane Austen evening. I remember Felicity making herself such a dress once for a fancy dress party. It's probably in the garage stored away. I must go and look!

      "Awaiting your return..." That is so lovely of you. Thank you! xx


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